Advocates in the making…..

I’ve watched lately as my older kids have taken a stand on their friend’s use of the ‘r’ word in everyday life.

I’ve watched as some of their friends have defended their right to throw the word ‘retard’ around at will.

This isn’t about Parker, they insist.  Parker is sooo cute!


Except, that excuse really doesn’t cut it for my kids.

I’ve watched as my kids have issued a challenge.  A challenge to either stand up for those with disabilities, or take a hike.  A hike straight off of their Facebook pages and away from any chance of being included in any of their activities again.


I’ve spent a lot of time trying to know how best to counsel my kids in this situation.  I recognize that their way of advocating is still a bit rough around the edges.  This is new to them, this asking people to be respectful….

then getting slammed in return.

My kids often feel helpless when it comes to making  Parker’s life easier.  There isn’t much they can do when it’s time to change out Parker’s trach, or pour in another bolus feed, or during a hospital stay.


Letting the world know, without a shadow of a doubt, of where they stand on the use of the ‘r-word’ is something they can do.

It’s a gift from them to Parker.

A public way of expressing their love and admiration for all that Parker has gone through.

It’s their way of letting Parker know he’ll never have to go through this life alone.

A way of making the world a better place for all of those with intellectual disabilities.


And it makes this Mama’s heart swell with love and pride.


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