Stephanie’s offer of performing a benefit concert for Parker has been on the table for several months. I didn’t want to accept such an offer unless I could do justice at our part of promoting it. I waited until several friends had told us that they would be available to help us in anyway what so ever. All we had to do was call. Please let them know. They had been wanting to help but didn’t know what we needed.
I touched base with a few of the makers of these offers only to receive either total silence over the phone or the total deer in the headlights stare in reply when the subject was brought up in person.
Oh Well.
I promise you that 99.9 times out of 100 when we are asked how things are going or if we need any help at all, both Reed and I plaster a fake smile on our faces and lie through our teeth as we reply that everything is great. Couldn’t be better. We are doing swell. No worries.
So I’m thinking that instead of putting anyone through that again it may just be easier to cancel the concert. Summer is coming and people are busy with their own families. That is totally understandable. Hearts are in the right place, life is just busy. I’ve been there and done that myself.
And, really. Our family is doing swell. Everything is great. No worries.
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Oh Tammy – I’m so sorry about the concert. I wish I were closer to you. Sometimes people can really let you down – and their offering of help ends up being empty words. I wish you weren’t experiencing that.
I’m sorry about Reed too – that sounds so painful. My mom had her gall bladder removed, and it was a very quick process and recovery too. I hope the same for Reed.
Glad to hear that everything is “fine” … (smile on your part). How disappointing though about the concert (frown on my part). Hoping hubby is on the road to recovery very soon …
I feel sad reading this. You need people to be jumping through the woodwork to do things when given the opportunity instead of having to fake it to get through the day. I’m sorry that you have been let down. I will pray that things work out and that the concert will go on and be a success. I have had people do a couple of benefits for Izzy. I hope that your ‘friends’ realize how much you need them now.
hugs & prayers.
Annie
Oh Tammy, I’m so sorry. I would help out too if I were closer. I hope things work out and that your able to have the concert. Hugs.
What kind of things do you need help with concerning this concert? Were they specific requests that were met this way? I’m sorry these past weeks have been so heavy on you and yours. Here’s praying for sunnier skies.
I am so sorry. People are so….. I don’t know. I am sorry you are going through this. I too will pray for better days to come.
I am so sorry that your “friends” let you down. I have a daughter who has complex CHD and has had 5 heart surgeries, has suffered strokes and many other complications. My hubby and I have experienced these types of responses too. It’s so hard to have an chronically ill child and have to worry about finances too. I can imagine it was very hard for you to even call those people up and ask for their help and then for them to react that way. Heartbreaking. We’ve even had that happen with family members.
I just noticed your links along the sidebar. We are LDS too. I would like to swap blog links if it’s ok with you. Parker is a sweetie and there is a reason he is here and has all his medical problems. He is touching a lot of lives and opening a lot of hearts. You are doing a terrific job. I know how hard it is, my dd is “terminally ill” and thinks we are attached at the hip. It’s almost 1:30am and I am still trying to get her to bed. But I keep going every day and try to cherish it as much as I can.
(((hugs))) from another CHD mom who is fine. No worries, no problems.
Nancy
THat’s awful. If I was closer to you, closer than a million miles away, I would help you out.
I hope that everything works out okay.
Just wanted to let you know I’m reading and so glad I found you!
Lee
THIS is TERRIBLE!!!! I was just working on my post about the concert and jumped over to grab the links and stuff and read this! How horrible!
I just emailed you – but I don’t know if you will read this sooner. Give me a call. I can’t find your number in my chaos!!!
Is there anyway we can still go ahead with it? I wish I were closer so I could help. Being way up here in Canada isn’t too much help!
PS – with Susan’s computer crash – all our numbers and stuff are gone (long with sooo much other stuff!)