And then she said….

Wednesday was a pretty big day around here.  It was the day that we  share with others the damage done by using the r-word.

Yes.  Even if you aren’t talking about Parker, that word stings.  Offends.  Hurts.  And makes you wonder why people are so set on keeping it in their vocabulary.  I hear all kinds of reasons as to why it’s okay to make use of the r-word.

Case In Point:



My beautiful, 21 year old Curly Girl, after posting a link to a page where her friends could sign a pledge to take the r-word out of their vocabulary, received this message:

“You know there is another side to this story.   When my Mom worked at the American Fork Developmental Center, the r-word WAS the politically correct word to use in regards to those who had Down syndrome and other intellectual disabilities.”

“As a matter of fact, each time my Mom sees one of the kids she used to work with she gets so excited and exclaims, Look!  there’s one of my Retards!”

“She says it with such love, McCall.” McCall and Parker

Yeah, she may say it with all kinds of love. Unfortunately she says it with absolutely ZERO respect. 

All my daughter did was simply ask for others to show a little respect to a kid who has been through more in his eight short years than most of us will go through in our entire lives.  A kid who works harder than any other kid I know.

It is time to end the r-word.

Heck, the American Fork Developmental Center no longer accepts kids with Down syndrome.  Instead babies with Ds stay at home with their families, go to school, work, and become contributing members of their community.

THAT’s got to tell you something, doesn’t it?

It’s time to retire the r-word, regardless of how much love you use it with.  (gag)

PS:  While I’m not saying this woman didn’t love those she worked with, I AM saying that the r-word is now fraught with such derision it is time our society make the choice to no longer use it.



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