Advocates in the making…..

I’ve watched lately as my older kids have taken a stand on their friend’s use of the ‘r’ word in everyday life.

I’ve watched as some of their friends have defended their right to throw the word ‘retard’ around at will.

This isn’t about Parker, they insist.  Parker is sooo cute!


Except, that excuse really doesn’t cut it for my kids.

I’ve watched as my kids have issued a challenge.  A challenge to either stand up for those with disabilities, or take a hike.  A hike straight off of their Facebook pages and away from any chance of being included in any of their activities again.


I’ve spent a lot of time trying to know how best to counsel my kids in this situation.  I recognize that their way of advocating is still a bit rough around the edges.  This is new to them, this asking people to be respectful….

then getting slammed in return.

My kids often feel helpless when it comes to making  Parker’s life easier.  There isn’t much they can do when it’s time to change out Parker’s trach, or pour in another bolus feed, or during a hospital stay.


Letting the world know, without a shadow of a doubt, of where they stand on the use of the ‘r-word’ is something they can do.

It’s a gift from them to Parker.

A public way of expressing their love and admiration for all that Parker has gone through.

It’s their way of letting Parker know he’ll never have to go through this life alone.

A way of making the world a better place for all of those with intellectual disabilities.


And it makes this Mama’s heart swell with love and pride.

About Tammy and Parker

Special Needs Blogger, and homeschooling Mom, heavily involved in advocacy for all kids with special needs in Utah.


  1. Sarah says:

    Bravo to your kids! It’s not always easy challenging your friends on something they do. It’s great that they’re so passionate about changing their friends views about the “r-word”.

  2. Good for them!!! The world needs more heroes in it, like your brave children! You must be so proud! Great job Momma! Hugs!!!

  3. Those are some fine young men and young women you’ve raised, Tammy. no matter how rough around the edges their advocacy efforts may seem to you right now, they are strong in their convictions and that’s what matters. LOVE the pictures, too!

  4. Penny says:

    Your kids are awesome Tammy! I’m so proud of them, as I know you are. They are a reflection of you so how can they not be awesome? Love ya girlfriend?

  5. Awesome kids! Great advocates for Parker. Their behavior is a reflection of what they have seen and been taught at home.

  6. And indeed, AMAZING kiddos! Such wonderful humans you’ve raised, love!

  7. YAY!!! What GREAT kids! Such a strong family you have. :)

  8. That is awesome, Tammy!! Way to go kids!!

  9. Chris says:

    Is this the first time EVER that you have posted a picture of yourself??? What a great way to start! You and your family are beautiful, inside and out.

  10. valmg

    Go Mom, go kids and go Parker!
    Seriously I hate the way the r-word is misused and abused. It’s offensive. You should be proud of your kids for taking a stand.

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